6 Struggles Kids Need to Face (and Why You Shouldn’t Intervene)


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Is your overprotectiveness unintentionally shielding your child form learning from the best teacher - life itself?

It's natural to want to protect them. But by bubble-wrapping them, protecting them from the real life challenges, you’re not allowing them the space they require to thrive, adapt, struggle and grow.

It's time to step back and let the children explore and learn under your watchful eye. Watch them gain the confidence as they grow stronger, resilient and independent individuals.

"Childhood is a journey, not a race. Allow your child to have time to explore, to play and to learn."

6 Experiences That Shapes Your Child

These are the 6 lessons children learn through the ups and downs in life –

  1. Failure Is The Best Teacher

School competitions become their first training ground. It teaches them the importance of preparation, focus and emotional resilience.

Encourage your child to participate without the pressure of winning a medal or coming first.

The experience will teach them about dealing with setbacks, reflecting, building their inner strength and positivity.

2. Resolving Conflicts With Friends

School competitions become their first training ground. It teaches them the importance of preparation, focus and emotional resilience.

Encourage your child to participate without the pressure of winning a medal or coming first.

The experience will teach them about dealing with setbacks, reflecting, building their inner strength and positivity.

3. Adapting To New Environment

Changes are always unsettling, be it a new school or a new neighbourhood or even a new sibling. But change IS the constant in life.

Prepare them by discussing upcoming changes and answering their queries. Encourage curiosity.

This will foster confidence, preparing them to adapt more willingly while also broadening their perspective.

4. Taking Responsibility For Mistakes

To err is human but to own up your mistakes makes you a Superman.

Assign tasks, like packing their school bag or managing their school work, and allow them to stumble.

If they miss a deadline or forget to take the assignment to school, they will learn about accountability and how to correct their mistakes without making excuses or blaming others.

It will foster responsibility, strengthen their integrity and problem-solving ability.

5. Taking On Leadership Role

Leadership comes naturally to kids when they collaborate with their peers.

Encourage them to embrace the unique experience to learn about collaboration, motivation add accountability.

They will learn to delegate, inspire others, and work together on shared goals.

Every activity is an opportunity for self-discovery, so let your child explore freely. The goal isn’t perfection but growth.

6. Trying A New Hobby Or Sport

Nothing like having the freedom to explore for it is the key to self-discovery.

Kids must get the opportunity to try new hobbies or sports without the expectation of excelling.

The process of learning something new teaches them discipline, resilience, consistency, and the value of hard work. It also lets them discover their passions and interest.

How Experiences Create an Everlasting Impression

When children engage in experiences, they absorb lessons in a way that theory alone can’t teach. Real-life challenges:

- Build emotional resilience

- Enhance self-awareness

- Improve problem-solving skills

- Foster adaptability

- Strengthen relationships

- Instil a love for lifelong learning

Each experience creates its own set of learning which help the children to uncover their hidden strength as they grow into individuals.

Let Life Teach Them

Remember, you are there safety net but they have to go through their own experiences to learn there we around. Every challenge becomes a stepping stone to growth.

So the next time you feel tempted to jump in to protect or shield your child from any hardship, think about how you are effecting their growth.

Do you want them to grow up dependent on you or would you rather let the small bumps along the way shape them into confident, capable adults?

Time to Roll Up the Sleeves

If you're ready to let life teacher child, start small. Encourage your child to try something new this week, whether it's trying to learn something new or participating in some competition or taking up the responsibility for task.

Books by My Bedside

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt

A simple guidebook to help you build your child's social skills and get them ready for tomorrow! Buy your copy now!!

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